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Decisions..Decisions..

One of the questions I'm often asked is.."So.do u plan to go back to work or are u gonna be a full time housewife/taitai?"

The original plan was to go back to work asap, after I'd given birth to Aidan. I'd left my job late last year during my 2nd trimester of pregnancy due to several reasons. Firstly, my nausea didn't stop after the 1st trimester which I thought it would..it carried on towards the 2nd and it was draining me both physically and mentally. Secondly, due to my hormones going haywire as a result of the pregnancy, my body was breaking out into rashes which interestingly was only on my body itself..none on my face/hands and legs *thankfully*..It was making me crazy and depressed. Lastly, the job I had was a really demanding one and I was totally stressed out by it. So, I told my hubby that I really felt like quitting so that I could rest a little..He was okay with it..and so I did. I told everyone that my intention was to start working again, soon after my confinement was over..

Well, I'd to eat my words..It was impossible for me to go back to work that soon...especially after I'd spent the 1st 2 months with him. I really didn't expect my maternal feelings to be so overwhelming and I love every moment of the time spent with li' Aidan.

Do I want to work still? Actually, yes I do. I'm a real hyper person and being cooped up at home kinda makes me go crazy ..well, what keeps me busy now is Aidan. It's not that I don't enjoy being a SAHM..but there's this sense of restlessness in me.Hubby and I decided to give myself a '6 mth' deadline (technically,it's 4 months 'coz we decided on this when Aidam was 2 mths old). By the time Aidan is 6 months old, I'll make a decision whether I want to return to the workforce . Since I'm more inclined towards going back to work, the next 3 months with him will be really precious since I may not get to be home with him that often soon.

Who knows, with the economy so bad, I may end up not being able to find a job so....
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Aidan's pimples are back again . Could be becuz the weather has been so hot lately..bleah..Well, Hazeline Snow to the rescue..hopefully it will work it's magic again!!

Snow on Aidan~~


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inventive_manic
Apr. 1st, 2003 02:23 am (UTC)
*awws at aidan*

You know, i never understood how some people can leave their kids at that 24hr/7days a week day care at Still Road, and give excuses of working harder to give their kids a better life later on. In fact, i was appalled. With people like that, i can't imagine what our world will be like for the next generation.

But then thank God there's people like you. Doesn't seem like money is in question yet, so what else is better than to enjoy your own baby growing up? The only regret i have for coming over here to study, really is the fact that i'm missing 6 whole years of my younger brother's later childhood. He doesn't know it yet, but kids always keep me in perspective somehow. :)
angeliatay
Apr. 1st, 2003 02:29 am (UTC)
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And there's also a lot to think abt before I really go back to the workforce. Whether to have a live-in maid, how to plan our schedules etc..Actually, I do feel guilty wanting to go back to work but..I dunno lah. I may..I may not :)..
Agree with u on the 24/7 childcare thingy..I think some of those examples given (eg.father can't stand the child's incessant crying(!!!)and needing rest at home) were really ridculous. Why have children then!
How old is ur youngest bro btw?
inventive_manic
Apr. 1st, 2003 02:35 am (UTC)
Maybe there's some kind of work along the lines of your profession that could let you work from home? Sounds quite common these days, but i guess it all depends. (I'd like to think i'll be able to work from home at some point in my life, that's why i chose this course man :x)

He's 16 this year. I left when he was in P6, then suddenly woah, he's all tall and big out of nowhere! hah.
angeliatay
Apr. 1st, 2003 03:00 am (UTC)
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I was in the media line (programme acquisitions) so I think it's probably not possible to work from home..but I could look at other kinda job which I could..who knows..I may be lucky :) Hubby actually prefers that I start a business of my own but I really have no idea what to do!! Yeah, I'm that dense :P~
Actually, one of the reasons why we think I should start working is becuz we are contemplating applying for PRship in Australia and it would definitely be easier if both of us were working.
Wow..u've been away for a long time. How long are you gonna be abroad for?
inventive_manic
Apr. 1st, 2003 03:20 am (UTC)
I tell you what ah. You market curry puffs overseas ah. Especially here ah. sure make money one. Something like a delifrance franchise here ah.

Australia ah? *meeps like a sheep* But at this point in time, one of the safer areas in this world man. heh.

Another 2 more years, hopefully. *crosses fingers* I mean that's the end of my course ah. Where to work is another thing i guess.
angeliatay
Apr. 1st, 2003 04:28 am (UTC)
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It would be great if I know how to make my own currypuff ..but i don't :P~I agree that food business is one of the better choices.
It was a choice between Australia and Canada (coz I used to study there) but coz of distance, we though Australia could be better. We'll see anyway :)
I guess it would be better for u to stay on in States to work eh..but so much to think abt..ur family, your SO, etc etc..
blueberrykisses
Apr. 1st, 2003 03:34 am (UTC)
Haha, teaching aidan to look after his skin at sucha young age? So cute those little patches of white.

i think it'll be a great idea to go into the food business in australia, especially chinese/asian cuisine. Not alot of good choices over there. Doing business allows you more flexibility and can spend more time with your little darling too!
angeliatay
Apr. 1st, 2003 04:18 am (UTC)
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But I'm not very good in cooking *coff*.

Well, I think only Melbourne has lotsa good Asian food..Me n hubby gotta sit down and really plan/decide..anyway, it really depends whether we are successful too.
Honestly, Aidan is one main reason why we are contemplating getting the PR.
blueberrykisses
Apr. 1st, 2003 04:47 am (UTC)
Haha, me too, but i guess ya don't hafta be a great chef to make it big in the food biz...

i remember eating lots of jap ramen in melbourne when i was there. but not any fantastic chinese food though. Yup, good luck with it!

Why? Cos of the demanding education system here in singapore?
angeliatay
Apr. 1st, 2003 04:59 am (UTC)
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Well, not just the education system..
The recent govt policies have been really *arghhh*! You really get kinda disappointed..
I guess we just want a way out..just in case and well, I guess Australia's way of life may not be that hectic and pressurizing..Some pple may disagree tho :P~
blueberrykisses
Apr. 1st, 2003 05:16 am (UTC)
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i agree to a certain extent lah. especially when i'm forced to learn that the rosy picture painted of the govt isn't all that true? *censor* haha

the boyfriend's family also thinking of getting Aust PR, but the last time i went there i felt that some aussies discriminate agst chinese.. din feel good at all.
angeliatay
Apr. 1st, 2003 05:48 am (UTC)
Yeah..I used to work closely with people from EDB/MFA and the stories they tell me *shiver*
Hmm..I didn't feel discriminated at all when I was in Aust and Canada..I thought the people there were really friendly.
alisonrae
Apr. 1st, 2003 05:06 am (UTC)
Migrating
I think many Singaporeans are contemplating migration. DH and I are planning to move to New Zealand too, after my parents go over and settle in. It's mainly for DD, whom we do not want growing up in the hothouse that is Singapore's education system.

Starting a business from home is a great idea! But first you've to have a business idea. Food is a popular option, but you have to take into account losses from wastage etc. It's better to deal in something non-perishable, IMO.
angeliatay
Apr. 1st, 2003 05:10 am (UTC)
Re: Migrating
Yeah..before we had Aidan, we used to just talk but no action. But now, with Aidan's arrival, we are making concrete plans to migrate already...getting the papers, talking to agents, giving ourselves datelines etc.We really want the best for our kids.
New Zealand will be nice..the scenery and ample land. When do u forsee yourself going?


alisonrae
Apr. 1st, 2003 05:15 am (UTC)
Re: Migrating
Dunno about when. But you know, migrating seems like an awfully expensive process. First, you must have yay amount of money before you even get approval. And it's several hundreds of thousands of dollars. Who has that kind of money? I can honestly say we don't.
angeliatay
Apr. 1st, 2003 05:46 am (UTC)
Re: Migrating
We are looking at applying for PR under the Business Skills category...so we may not need that much dough but well, u probably mus have a fair bit of cash so that u can settle in properly, buy a house/car and have enough for a rainy day so...
I don't think I wanna wait till I retire than think of migrating :P
alisonrae
Apr. 1st, 2003 06:31 am (UTC)
Re: Migrating
It's been a while since I last looked at migration requirements for ANZ. Business Skills is the category for those wishing to start a business right? That means you have to make it profitable for 2 years before they grant you PR?
angeliatay
Apr. 1st, 2003 06:43 am (UTC)
Re: Migrating
Oopz I got it wrong..was referring to Skilled Migration..hubby to apply.
I have a sister there who is also in the process of applying and she may have a company sponsor too. Hopefully, this will help when she gets her pr.
meganmacy
Apr. 2nd, 2003 07:32 am (UTC)
That thought crosses my mind all the time, from the minute I got pregnant, till Megan was born, till she became 1,2,3 and now my second one.

If money is not an issue, it will be great to be able to stay at home with the kids. I remembered when Megan was around 6-9months, she would rather stay at my mum's place than to go home with my and dh. Did I bawl my eyes out or what when I reached home without her... She simply didn't want to go home with me. My dh will then say," I am giving you the option. If you want to stay at home, we just have to sell the car."

Things got better as she grew older and now she is sticking to me like super glue.
But memories of those days weren't nice. I miss my financial freedom now being a SAHM.
But I find it so rewarding to be able to be at home with Megan and Macy. She learns alot more and I am ever so determined to make her feed herself properly before she turns 4.


angeliatay
Apr. 2nd, 2003 07:38 am (UTC)
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Yeah..agree abt the financial freedom part..I really hate having to reply on hubby for pocket money and being do dependent on him for all financial matters. I like spending my own money especially while shopping so i won't feel so guilty abt it..Fortunately, he doesn't mind me doting on Aidan and I'm really thankful that hubby's income is able to support us 3..(so far, that is)

But..when u guys go to HK, u will have to be a full fledge SAHM then, right?
Anyway..u are doing a great job with ur kids..esp Megan from what I read. Will be great to learn from you..
meganmacy
Apr. 2nd, 2003 07:44 am (UTC)
Learn from me? Must start with super messy hair, oily glasses and milk stained t-shirt. Haha...

I am already taking money from hubby now to spend. Still thinking whether to use $90 to do a hair cut at Sabune Caban. I splurged $300 last month on my hair as a birthday treat. Now my hair has grown and badly need a cut. If I go somewhere else, what if they don't know how to cut? But $90 for a cut is super bloody expensive lor....

Yes, will be a full fledge SAHM. But still hopeful to teach part time at HK SIS. That is where MEgan will be too.
angeliatay
Apr. 2nd, 2003 08:08 am (UTC)
Hee..I already have messy & tangled hair, super oily glasses and milk stained tees/shorts/furnitures!
Yeah..same as u..I have a pocket allowance from hub..but I dip into my savings whenever I wanna treat myself. I go with hubby to the hairdresser now for a trim and treatment and he is always so amazed that it cost so much for him to do those stuff (usually abt $100) whereas their haircut is so cheap. Where is Sabune Caban?
Hm..if u teach part-time, how r u gonna arrange for Macy?
meganmacy
Apr. 2nd, 2003 07:14 pm (UTC)
My mum will be with my for the 1st 6 months. So, I will try out teaching at HK SIS( heard the students are quite a pain) If I am ok coping, then we will employ a part time maid during the days I teach. PArt time maids there are in abundance and they get paid HK50 an hour. They do cleaning, babysitting and all. So, she only need to help me look after Macy from 8-3.30pm. Megan goes to school from 12-3pm. I will be back by 3.30pm. One day of part time teaching brings in HK1000. why not?

Sabun is at Tanglin Mall. Hong Hong, who cuts my hair, was from La Salon. So how, should I just cut?


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