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Apr. 28th, 2005


The monstrousity around his neck is his
old mouldy bib in case you were wondering...

The boy still has a hearty appetite (thankfully). At least he's eating much slower now. When he first started on solids, he used to gulp down his food in a hurry and his meal would be finished in mere minutes. I know it isn't encouraged but we deliberately let him watch tv and have his dinner because he eats slower as a result. When we're out for dinner, he's always the first to finish so we usually have to speed up our eating pace. It's really gratifying to see him enjoying his meal..he'll show his appreciation by going "mmmm, nice!". He loves rice and noodles..and sometimes, even a bowl of plain rice and soup would suffice and he'll usually have at least 2 bowls followed by fruits. Nenita has been great with him..she tries to cook as much variety for him everyday ensuring that it has all the basic food types. Like most kids, he doesn't really like his vegs cept for brocolli and spinach so she'll try to include them in his meals. I feel kinda guilty when I think back of the time when I was a SAHM and had to cook for him. He had fish & brocolli porridge almost everyday for a year and still wallop his food with gusto!

....but he is such a messy eater!!!!

Video :Long boring clip of Aidan having dinner~
(he's usually eats faster if Nenita feeds him but we prefer that he does it himself :) )



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Here's Aidan sleeping with his 3 fave stuffed-toy :)Since that day, the li' mousey has been his regular sleeping companion together with his 2 piggies. Man, and I was planning to wean him off his comfort toys..! Looks like I gotta wait a while..

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My helper Nenita is a stanch Christian who goes to church on the Sunday that she's off. She tries to do her part by donating 10% of her salary every month but for the past 2 months or so, she wasn't able to as her family back in Philippines needed money urgently.

During her last visit to church, her pastor rounded up the Filipino congregation members and preached them on the importance of tithings*, adding that he'd noticed that some of them in the group has not been contributing to the tithes. By not doing so, he said, they are disobeying and 'robbing' God.

Nenita told me that the church has also been asking for donations for two other separate funds. The first one was a fund set up for visiting pastors from abroad who comes by every month to their church to preach. The money is supposedly meant for covering their accomodation and food cost while they are in Singapore. Part of it is also offset the cost of the catered food that is ordered for their tea sessions after the service where they get to mingle with the visiting pastor. They were instructed to offer $10 a month per member for this. The 2nd donation is called "faith promise".It is an act of faith that promises God to give a specific amount to world evangelism, in addition to the tithes through regular giving.

I asked whether it was compulsory to donate to these funds and she said that the way the pastor had put it, it seemed like it was a must. Furthermore, her cell group leader had been smsing her, reminding her to bring her donation envelopes the next time she goes to church. She, along with some of her Filipino friends had approached the pastor and explained that it could be tough for them to fork out that much money per month due to their monetary obligation to their family. The reply to her was this "Do not always worry about money. God will also provide." And he quoted this passage :
"For I testify that they gave as much as they were able, and even beyond their ability… And they did not do as we expected, but gave themselves first to the Lord and then to us in keeping with God's will" (2 Corinthians 8:3, 5, NIV).

An additional $10-20 a month may not seem like a lot to many but it is for her as majority of her salary goes to her family back in Philippines. She has a 6 year son and he is her main priority, so she has to ensure that her family have money for his upbringing and other misc items like school fees, clothes etc.

"Ma'am.." she said, "Being a Christian in Singapore is very expensive you know!"

(Please do not be mistaken that i'm criticising Christianity in my post)
* Tithes :
Catholic definition - "the tenth part of the increase arising from the profits of land and stock, allotted to the clergy for their support or devoted to religious or charitable uses". A more radical definition is "the tenth part of all fruits and profits justly acquired, owed to God in recognition of his supreme dominion over man, and to be paid to the ministers of the church".
Christian definition - Serves more as an external, material testimony that God owns both the material and spiritual things of a Christian's life. Giving of
tithes is an indicator of obedience to all of God’s laws.



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dotteddreams
Apr. 28th, 2005 02:39 pm (UTC)
i like picture no. 2. too cute!

hahaha he has so many stuffed toys around his bed!!
angeliatay
Apr. 28th, 2005 02:41 pm (UTC)
he was trying to watch tv coz I was blocking him by standing in front of him :p

heh yeah..sometimes, after he's woken up, he'll take the stuff toys one by one and throw them on the floor *headache*
uniclycommon
Apr. 28th, 2005 02:41 pm (UTC)
Honestly, I think that the pastor shouldn't be so insistent on them giving money, especially for the visiting pastor thing. I mean, I'm all for a variety of sermons being preached with different pastors, but is that always a necessity? Paying for the food is understandable, but still... and to 'burden' domestic helpers with this just seems a bit wrong.

Besides, like u said, it is quite a large sum of money to her, since she has to send most of her money back.
angeliatay
Apr. 28th, 2005 02:44 pm (UTC)
i agree. I simply don't understand why they have to pay for these pastors. $10 for the food is quite a lot too imo..Most of these maids go to church only once a month. It's not like they are getting scrumptuous meals and all..just simple fare and sometimes, Nenita will even cook some items from home to bring for tea (her friends does that too).

Nenita said that her church in Philippines was never so strict with church donations..and was wondering why it was so in Singapore. Im wondering whether i should even ask her to consider switching churches but her friends are all there.
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lavivaloca
Apr. 28th, 2005 03:01 pm (UTC)
oh i remb the piggies aidan's holding ! cute awh.

hmmmp, how long hv you been bloggin ?
angeliatay
Apr. 28th, 2005 03:09 pm (UTC)
Let's see..my first entry was on Oct 20th 2002 :)..so that means I've been blogging for 2 years + already :)

Yeah..the piggies have been with him for ages! Seh-Kor liao!
meowmeowfelicia
Apr. 28th, 2005 03:26 pm (UTC)
Oooohh... Look at those gorgeous lashes in the 3rd pic! *drools*

He must be thinking why you're filming him whilst he was eating! That's why bochup you when you asked if his dinner's nice! =P

Now he's got 3 comfort toys! ;) Think piggy's gonna accompany his for a long loong time!
angeliatay
Apr. 29th, 2005 12:59 am (UTC)
heh sometimes he gets really irked when i take too many pics of him. Usually, it isnt easy to film him with the camcorder coz he always attacks it so have to do it only when he's busy..

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e_rambler
Apr. 28th, 2005 03:50 pm (UTC)
Tithing should NEVER be a compulsory thing. I did tell you the story of my child psychologist friend who treated a young girl (and I mean YOUNG) for anorexia and it was because her church forced even the kids to tithe and she was made to feel guilty if she didn't, and thus began to skip meals to save her allocwance for tithing? Local church too.
angeliatay
Apr. 29th, 2005 12:57 am (UTC)
eh u never told me this story before..
sometimes, the churches don't exactly force them to tithe but there is some emotional blackmailing involved and they then feel compelled to, even if it's beyond their means. aiyoh..
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mummybun
Apr. 28th, 2005 04:20 pm (UTC)
So does it count if I donate 10% to charity and not to the church!?
angeliatay
Apr. 29th, 2005 12:57 am (UTC)
urm..if you are a christian, it doesn't :P
ickleoriental
Apr. 28th, 2005 04:32 pm (UTC)
ok it is slightly worrying that these pictures are making me hungry...
angeliatay
Apr. 29th, 2005 12:58 am (UTC)
hah! you must be craving for supper! I thought his meal looks kinda gross..white n green!
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slumbermydarlin
Apr. 28th, 2005 06:24 pm (UTC)
the first time i went to this one church near my place, i was so turned off by the sermon, it was all about giving money to the church. and i couldnt' quite understand why. i saw my friends the friends giving large sums of their pocket money, and i see them in school not really eating, cause no money! and the church use this money to what? buy more lights and mics for the stage. bah.

no offence either. but i don't get it lah.
angeliatay
Apr. 29th, 2005 12:54 am (UTC)
heh same here. I went to quite a 'well-known' church during one x'mas and the whole time, the pastor was preaching on the need to give generously to God and why it is okay to be rich and a Christian..turned me off quite a bit.

I think for youths..it's sometimes peer pressure..they 'give' at times 'coz their friends do too..sad lah..That shouldnt be the way.
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sminya
Apr. 28th, 2005 11:20 pm (UTC)
Wow, your maid's pastor doesn't really empathise well, does he?

I personally am not against tithing. However, sometimes I feel that the money could be used for a much better cause (depends on some churches because some churches are super rich and I don't think they need any additional moolah) especially if the church doesn't really seem to be open about their finances. I hope this doesn't make me "disobedient to God"!
angeliatay
Apr. 29th, 2005 12:51 am (UTC)
yeah ..he doesn't. My maid isnt that comfy with his style..and not meaning to be critical, she also mentioned that he's able to afford nice stuff like luxury cars and branded clothes..and yet, he's preaching to them to give generously.

I'm not against tithing..and my maid isn't too. she feels bad/guilty that she isnt able to do so regularly..but the other funds they are asking for..i do feel that it is a li' too much. Shouldnt the tithes help cover such overhead costs for visiting pastors? Dunno lah..they don't seem to understand that these helpers aren't rich! I wonder whether they are that direct with the local congregation..rounding them up and reminding them to give generously to tithes.
bbhome
Apr. 29th, 2005 12:14 am (UTC)
I told you he would like the rat ! what's that purple thing at the back with the question mark ? still waiting to meet him in person again.
angeliatay
Apr. 29th, 2005 12:41 am (UTC)
i have no idea what that purple thingy is..It was something I got as a 'welcome' gift during a dept New Year's at SPH..looks like 'gong tow' like that. Aidan HATES it!

Yeah..must arrange a playdate lah. Oi..if i got MT Faber to swim this weekend, u guys wanna come too?
inventive_manic
Apr. 29th, 2005 12:50 am (UTC)
as far as i know, i think the catholics don't really stick to that anymore, and i don't think that's their definition actually, but i could be wrong. and for the most part, catholics use it to differentiate themselves from the other christian grps, as i've heard of several christian friends who mentioned the obligation of the 1/10th, and i've never come across it growing up at all!

sometimes i think religion is a neuro-social disorder. i'm sorry, but "don't worry about money because God will provide"? what kind of advice is that? and why do people buy it?! Angie, you heard that joke about how we don't really have a problem with God but it's his PR people he has to fire? so apt in this case heh. somebody's going to shoot me now so i'll rattle on about this in my journal.

btw, where did you buy aidan's green cow pjs from? they're so cute!! i think they'll make a nice pressie for my best friend's soon-to-be son. :)
angeliatay
Apr. 29th, 2005 01:27 am (UTC)
i think tithing is still being practised in the Catholic churches though they don't blatantly ask their members to do so..I cant be sure though..

Heh..i understand where you are coming from and i feel this way too..and no one's gonna shoot you *grin*

Aidan's cow pjs was a bday present actually but they may be too big for your best-friend's son since he's gonna be a newborne. You will have better luck going to places like Mothercare, getting those buttonup pjs. Their pjs are really really cute with animal prints and all!
jinsiew
Apr. 29th, 2005 01:07 am (UTC)
what church is your helper going to??? i would run away from such a church that guilt-trip their congregation into committing to a 10% tithing!!! it is only a guideline in the Bible no where did it mention that by not committing to a certain percentage, is disobedience to God!! it is a personal conviction and if the person is not able to but give whatever he/she can, God will honor it and use that...ask her not to listen everything the pastor says, they are only human after all!! listen, and check in the Bible...
angeliatay
Apr. 29th, 2005 02:02 am (UTC)
I don't wanna mention the church here..thought it wont be appropriate to do so...

I gotta be honest, im not very well-versed in the bible that I can convince her that she isn't sinning just coz she doesnt commit to the 10% tithing. She had always felt that she is obligated to do so as a Christian coz it is stated in the bible.. Again, her gripe isnt with tithing but the other monies that the church is asking them to cough up..i find that ridiculous too!
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rexkids
Apr. 29th, 2005 01:49 am (UTC)
angie, going to church should be bond-free. As christians, we are release from bondage, so if Nerita felt the church is only about $ and cents, maybe this is not a right church for her. A church pastor should never pressurise their members to give tithes and offerings as if it's a must. Yes, tithing is in the bible and God is testing our faith, however He will not love us less just because we didn't tithe. I had missed tithing for a few months as I had missed attending church. However, I didn't receive any calls to tell me I have to TITHE. Even offerings is on our own free will, no fixed amount.

Share with her this and maybe asked her to consider another church.
angeliatay
Apr. 29th, 2005 01:58 am (UTC)
yup..i know too. I used to attend Wesley and she knows that (i've backslided tho) and I told her that we never had such kinda pressure from our church. That's why she's so confused..I've already told her that she shouldnt abide by it just coz her pastor told her too and to go with what she feels is comfortable for her..but she is receiving pressure from her cell grp members too. I would prefer that she makes her own decision whether to consider another church..

Will also show her what you've written.she will be comforted by it..
rexkids
Apr. 29th, 2005 01:51 am (UTC)
He's really cute. Jon like Aidan is taking his own sweet time eating now, he's pouching his food now. And liek Aidan he ate less too, compared to the past.

I love the first pix cause he looks like a big boy :)
angeliatay
Apr. 29th, 2005 01:59 am (UTC)
yeah..i remember that our boys were alike in that they were both big and fast eaters!

Aidan hasnt started pouching his food yet tho he has gotten fussier with his food preference. He'll spit out food he doesnt like!

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archived
Apr. 29th, 2005 02:03 am (UTC)
Hi Angelia, which church does she go to? Email me if it is not convenient..?
angeliatay
Apr. 29th, 2005 03:46 am (UTC)
is it okay that i don't reveal the church name? Nenita knows i've blogged abt this and feels better after reading the comments but she asked that i not mention the name of the church.
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