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heh..i look like a teacher with my specs~

Reminder to self. Never..! I repeat..never tell yourself how lucky you are that your kid hardly throws tantrum and is well-behaved in public. Because he'll prove you wrong soon after.

It is inevitable, to compare your kids to others. I admit, I can't help but do so. That is why I do worry a li' when I realised that Aidan is much slower in his speech development..but i try my best not to. Compared to others, he's quite a bochap boy who doesn't cling to us parents much. He's always been this way since he was a babe. Aidan's very independent and is able to amuse and entertain himself at any place & any time. Yet, I do lament about how nonchalent he is at times and envy other parents whose kids who are more needy of their moms. I know it sounds absurb but sometimes, I do want to feel like I'm my son's centre of universe. I think those of you who've met me & Aidan willl better understand what I'm talking abt when I describe Aidan's behavior. I can bring him to a neighbour's place (she stays two blocks away), and leave him there to play with his friend while I go back home for dinner and when I return, it seems like he didn't even realise I'd ever left. We come back from work and once in a while, the boy would deign to run to the door to greet us..giving us the perfunctionary hugs or kisses but immediately after that, he'll just run back to what he's doing and seemed to have forgotten our existence. There are times when he'll simply ignore us, even when we call out to him. Quite kek-sim lah! We wonder at times whether it's coz we aren't paying him ample attention, whether he thinks we are not showering with enough love and spending too much time at work.

But there are moments when he will become really affectionate, calling mummy and daddy over n over again..and manja us a little..times like these are rare and precious. Then again, he is generally a good boy and hardly ever misbehaves..He doesn't fight with other kids over toys and doesn't get worked up when his stuff gets taken..He's willing to share his goodies and food with others..(oh no, i'm praising him again)..So I tell myself that I shouldn't be complaining. Man, I'm contradicting myself so much in this entry. Getting quite schizo..Stop worrying and comparing *bishbish*!

Oh yes, back to his behavior. He started with his tantrums again..and this time round, it does gets harder and harder to distract him with other activities once he gets started. I guess this is just part of his growing up process and we just gotta deal with it. Just last week, we were at Novena Square for dinner and 'coz he finished his meal really fast, I decided to bring him around the mall. We went to this toy shop and usually, he'll be happy to browse ard, playing with whatever toy that attracts him. He hardly ever ask us to buy any of the toys for him after he's done. He was going from aisle to aisle, exploring the different shelves and before I knew what was happening, he swiftly grabbed this box of toy, and scooted out of the store! The storeowner on seeing what happened actually reached out for him, trying to block his escape but he managed to side-step him and merrily ran away. I quickly followed after him but the li' boy had already ran to the opposite side of the mall, gleefully holding on to the toy tightly. Finally managed to capture him and carried him back to the store, explaining to him that he shouldn't just take a toy away from a store without permission. He refused to let go of the toy at all and I had to prise it out of his hands. He was unhappy and showed it by sitting down on the floor, and started stamping his feet and crying loudly..Passerbys were starring at him and giving me pitying or 'dirty' looks..oh man..I quickly brought him carry out of the store, comforting him. Decided to bring him to the pet store downstairs where there were some hamsters and rabbits which he loves to watch. He refused to be consoled initially but after a while later, he finally stopped crying..Fortunately, he didn't try to kidnap any of the hamsters or bunnies...

Edit : My sis evonnetay just told me that Aidan probably takes after me coz I was exactly like him when I was younger..bochap, independent, non-clingy and always trying to run away from home . (hope he doesnt do that when he grows older :P).


Of all the interesting toys and gadgets in Kiddy Palace..
the kiddos were only interested in the hula hoops :D..
Ah boy can't keep still..While watching High5, he struck so many poses and moved from once place to another, and finally settling on the couch..

check out his diva pose :P

You gotta check out Lancerlord's blog..He has so many fabulous and hilarious links..imagine the no. of sites he surfs per day!

This is his kid, Lancerkid as Koda (geddit geddit!??)

the original pic..

And this is so Austin Powers..

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May. 14th, 2005 09:11 am (UTC)
Well, if I have a son as cute looking as yours, I think I'll have difficulty trying to scold him because his cute face will melt away the anger
Love the first picture of him! No, you still look nice with speckkies
May. 14th, 2005 09:25 am (UTC)
heh..it doesn't help much too when we reprimand him, and he'll stare at us pitifully and right after he says sorry, he'll start being his happy n cheery self again..cannot get angry with him for long!

Hubby took the picture of us together..he was so happy to see Aidan smiling at the cam :) [v rare that he does so]..
(no subject) - am_klutz - May. 14th, 2005 09:32 am (UTC) - Expand
May. 14th, 2005 09:35 am (UTC)
Welcome to the club. Stephen has started asking us to buy him things too. I never thought I'd have to sidestep certain stores or aisles, but now I do just in case. I'm sure it will only get worse. blech
May. 15th, 2005 02:35 am (UTC)
at least Stephen ask, Aidan just grabbed :P

but i know it is inevitable too. guess they are testing our limits and seeing how much they can demand from us..well, at least we are prepared *grin*
May. 14th, 2005 10:03 am (UTC)
so adorable his first picture haha and the one of him prancing ard in undies tsk tsk..

think i was like aidan as a kid, bo chup one, then dun cling onto my parents hahah..
May. 15th, 2005 02:36 am (UTC)
heh, i cant even remember what i was like as a kid already..sis had to remind me that i was the bochap sort too hehe.. Mebbe ur kid will turn out like aidan too!

May. 14th, 2005 10:05 am (UTC)
woah woah woah! wat a sexy little boy! heh..
May. 15th, 2005 02:37 am (UTC)
hahaha..sexy? i can never think of him as sexy :P
May. 14th, 2005 10:34 am (UTC)
On the contrary, YiXiang is so clingy, I am really very stressed and tired looking after him. He wants me ALL the time and he cries and wails when other acarry him. At least , you are not that kind who scold, whack kids when the kiddos throw tantrums. Eh...very 'unglam' one okie. Usually I will keep my cool ... till I reach home!! Then again YiHang has never thrwon tantrums in oublic (oopss! I said it ... lets hope your theory is not accurate!! Will ley ya know if he happens to throw tantrums in the near futures! :)
May. 15th, 2005 02:43 am (UTC)
I know there is always the flip side..when im with my other mom frens and tell them abt my 'woes', they give me the 'are you crazy look' and thell my i should consider myself lucky..but hard to explain lah. Sometimes, having a kid who is overly dependent can b q vexing too. Yeah, we havent resorted to physical force on Aidan so far..actually, we don't really have a reason to. Aidan reacts to stern warnings so we see no point whacking him..and i think the more one whacks, the more the kid will cry. Again, i also feel that different kids need diff ways of disciplining. But i have seen moms whack/slap their kids really hard in public..i do feel q xim-tia for the kids when i c it yet I know sometimes, the parents are already at the breaking point..

No two kids are the same. Yixiang is still very young right?
May. 14th, 2005 12:33 pm (UTC)
They don't call it the terrible twos for nothing you know :)

But I think Aidan is still quite alright lah, compared to some of my nieces and nephews and friend's kids...
May. 15th, 2005 02:51 am (UTC)
Aidan has his moments lah. You've always seen him when he's quite well-behaved...
(no subject) - e_rambler - May. 15th, 2005 03:08 am (UTC) - Expand
May. 14th, 2005 01:14 pm (UTC)
oh..the terrible two stage. Probably since u r a working mum now, you hope he will cling onto u as u don't see him 24/7. :D
Since he resemble his dad in looks, he will take after the other parent in character. *flee*
May. 15th, 2005 02:52 am (UTC)
heh..i dun mind that he has my traits tho it can be q worryin coz i was quite a naughty/rebellious kid :P
May. 14th, 2005 03:04 pm (UTC)
his diva pose...really sexy man! :P
May. 15th, 2005 02:53 am (UTC)
heh..dunno abt the sexy man..but quite 'tua pai'..one li' kid takin over the entire couch!
May. 14th, 2005 03:10 pm (UTC)
Think all mummies are very contridicting one. :D

For those like your self whose kids are not sticky, you wld want them to be more sticky but yet you enjoy the freedom :)

For those mummies like myself, we enjoy the love and stickiness of our child but we lost the freedom and rest.

Guess the moon is always brighter at the other side. (not sure if i have used the correct description)
May. 15th, 2005 02:55 am (UTC)
i think it is usually the case..there's always pros n cons i guess, not easy to please us hor *grin*..grass being greener on the other side.

okay..i shall stop lamenting!
(no subject) - clari_2004 - May. 15th, 2005 03:20 am (UTC) - Expand
May. 14th, 2005 03:23 pm (UTC)
I wonder how Aidan will react many yrs down the road, where random aunties/uncles will come up to him proclaiming to have seen him in his undies ;)
May. 15th, 2005 02:56 am (UTC)
hehe..i used to show pics of nekked Aidan so undies-pics of the boy is quite mild already :P
May. 15th, 2005 01:01 am (UTC)
erm sorry but that was a very funny scene. HE must really want that toy to run away with it else he just wanted your attention then. {{hugs}} they grow up so fast so this behaviour will go away soon too.
May. 15th, 2005 02:58 am (UTC)
yeah, in retrospect, it does seem quite funny but not at that moment..the thing is, the toy wasnt some fantastic thingy that he wanted. It was some puzzle i think..tho it was colorful. Ya, i guess all this will pass and we'll look back at this phase and think of the 'good times' *grin*
May. 15th, 2005 05:11 am (UTC)
Guess who you reminded me of in the 1st pic.....Tanya Chua. (Cute specs)

Ashley's into soft toys and sweets, she'll grab onto them and beg me to buy them for her. Luckily she doesn't really throw a tantrum when I refuse. But I do recall a period when she was ard 2-2.5 yrs old, brought her to Taka and don't kow what happened, but the next min she had already thrown herself flat onto the floor, kicking and wailing away. Man, that was a sight to behold!!!

Anyways, maybe it's time for you to consider having 2nd child.....there's a saying that the 2nd child's character is opposite of the the 1st's.

*Evil me chuckling away*
May. 15th, 2005 02:07 pm (UTC)
i think the first tantrum would always be shocking..and embarrassing coz we're never prepared to deal with it..

heh, what a reason to wanna have a 2nd child *bish* :P and what abt u *grin*
(no subject) - shawny17 - May. 16th, 2005 01:44 am (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - angeliatay - May. 16th, 2005 01:20 pm (UTC) - Expand
May. 15th, 2005 07:18 am (UTC)
when i read tis, i was about to ask whether you or your hb behaves this way, until I read your edited note :)

on the tantrums, guess it's just one of the moods, he's consider ok to be pacified so quickly.
May. 15th, 2005 02:09 pm (UTC)
yup..prob a mood or phase thingy..he recently started to learn how to beat us too though it aint very hard...remember reading ur post abt Jon and thought oh no, it's Aidan's turn now. Wonder where they learn it from! I hardly beat him at all!
(no subject) - rexkids - May. 16th, 2005 12:32 am (UTC) - Expand
May. 16th, 2005 02:28 am (UTC)
I'm distracted by his sexy thigh in the diva pose pic LOL!
May. 16th, 2005 01:21 pm (UTC)
u mean that flabby thigh?! hehe..
May. 16th, 2005 06:16 am (UTC)
No, you don't look like a teacher in specs. You look like TANYA!!

I get the exact opposite. Clingy children but no tantrums in public. Each has its woes lah. I wish my children were more like yours and Mong's but it ain't gonna happen *sigh*

what is the toy that he wanted so much, it does not seem like him to insist leh... I think.

you ~ try to run away from home? haha. I remember how my mum was always fed up that I treat home like hotel.

May. 16th, 2005 01:23 pm (UTC)
eh look that much like tanya meh *scratch head*

heh..grass is greener on the other side eh..again, i wanna stress that im not complainin abt aidan..just that i wish he could be a li'more affectionate i guess..yalah..me so demanding :P

It wasnt much of a toy..some puzzle. That's why it was quite surprising that he wanted it. He has tons of puzzle at home (which he ignores most of the time)..

Heh..mom used to say the same things to me..treat hotel like home. Imagine next time if our kids does the same.........it's gonna be payback time.
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