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Aidan threw a mega tantrum yesterday morning. We were both caught off-guard as it had been a while since he'd thrown such a fit.
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meganmacy
Aug. 30th, 2005 10:19 am (UTC)
So heart breaking... I can imagine him crying and asking daddy to bring him to school.

Parenting is tough man, I wish there is this 10 yr series that we can refer to for diff. situations.. hha..
angeliatay
Aug. 30th, 2005 10:40 am (UTC)
trust me..even with a 10 yr series, we'll still be gabra!
most of it is on-the-job training lah!
smallbully
Aug. 30th, 2005 11:25 am (UTC)
ah.. my heart ache when i read abt the part where he stand at the door n cry for daddy :(

anyway, i think canes have a very temporary effect on kids too. once used too freely/often, the scaring effect will not b there anymore.
angeliatay
Aug. 30th, 2005 11:33 am (UTC)
yeah i concur. I think it should be just used for something more serious..instead of him being stubborn or naughty. Have to accept that this is a rite of passage for kids and that they cant be angels all the time.
littlepoppet
Aug. 30th, 2005 11:48 am (UTC)
I've been wondering when I will need to start really disciplining emma these days. i know it's not going to be easy and i'm sure i will also gabra! Better read some more blogs of mummies and learn from all of you.

By the way that was such a sweet poem. Almost sent me to tears...as it is I already feel that my baby is growing up really fast!
angeliatay
Aug. 30th, 2005 10:29 pm (UTC)
Heh..u read blogs like mine oso kena more gabra :P

Emma is still too young to be disciplined but im sure when the toddler years arrive (which will be soon), you & Clarence will know how to handle it.I know of parentsusing the cane on their kids from as young as 14-15 months..which im really not comfortable with but i cant interfere b'cuz they arent my kids.

bellyexposed
Aug. 30th, 2005 11:54 am (UTC)
Hi, this is probably the first time I've commented since I've added you to my list to read but I don't usually pipe up and say anything but it's time. :)

We've considered extremely lax with our Julia as well... but like you said, we've never really had to punish her. Just raising our voices will bring her to tears. Unfortunately, we have used our hands in the past and it's a terrible method. We no longer do it because we've realized that hitting instills fear and we don't want to do that, we want their love and trust. We can't force our children to be good. Right?

You've done well with Aidan. Thanks for sharing.

angeliatay
Aug. 31st, 2005 08:24 am (UTC)
Yes..i concur with you.. hitting our kids do instill fear in them..but what could be worse is that they may end up being rebellious as a result. That happened to us as kids too and I don't want my child to end up hating us a result. However, I still think that there may be a need to use our hands to punish them when it really calls for it...

Yeah..we cant force our children to be good but we can try to guide them along the right path i guess (and hope for the best).

Thanks for your input too!
claudiacheng
Aug. 30th, 2005 11:56 am (UTC)
Everyone has their bad days but I must say Aidan is generally quite good so take heart. This too shall pass.

Parenting one is tough. Can you imagine parenting two or more??
angeliatay
Aug. 31st, 2005 08:25 am (UTC)
yeah..i know i should be thankful that Aidan is generally a good kiddo..maybe i do complain too much!

Heh..Parenting for 2 is LAGI tough! Kudos u moms like u and Mong..!
(Anonymous)
Aug. 30th, 2005 02:54 pm (UTC)
My eyes got a shock when I saw the pacifier tree! It's great he can sleep on his own now without the pacifier.

love that poem, gonna steal it into my blog ok..

yee ju
angeliatay
Aug. 31st, 2005 08:28 am (UTC)
steal away :) Have u heard the song Cats in the Cradle? it is very similar..and just as poignant.

Here it is :)

Cats in the Cradle
My child arrived just the other day,
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay,
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talking 'for I knew it, and as he grew
He said "I'm gonna be like you, dad, you know I'm gonna be like you"

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon,
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
"When you comin' home dad?" "I don't know when,

But we'll get together then, You know we'll have a good time then"

My son turned ten just the other day
He said "Thanks for the ball dad, come on let's play
Can you teach me to throw"
I said "Not today I got a lot to do" He said "That's OK"
He walked away but his smile never dimmed,
It said I'm gonna be like him, yeah,
You know I'm gonna be like him

Well he came from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
"Son I'm proud of you can you sit for a while?"
He shook his head and he said with a smile,
"What I'd really like dad is to borrow the car keys,
See you later can I have them please?"

I've long since retired, my son's moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said "I'd like to see you if you don't mind"
He said "I'd love to dad if I could find the time,
You see the my new job's a hassle and the kids have the flu
But it's sure nice talkin' to you dad
It's sure nice talkin' to you"
And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me,
He'd grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
"When you comin' home son?" "I don't know when,
But we'll get together then, Dad,
We're gonna have a good time then"
moonberry
Aug. 30th, 2005 07:44 pm (UTC)
oh wow... what a story. i think your hubby did the right thing by being stern and putting his foot down that morning because clearly that aidan has to realize that his tantrums won't always get him what he wants. however, i thought his enthusiasm for drawing is really endearing and who knows, maybe he'll grow up to become a famous artist or designer? hee hee hee.

sigh, the trials and tribulations of parenthood :) *HUGS*
angeliatay
Aug. 31st, 2005 08:30 am (UTC)
unfortuately, his parents dont seem to agree with our tactics though. I think this is the part we have to manage well since they are helping us look after him while we are at work.

Heh..you'll find out how tough it is soon im sure. Good luck *winkwink*
meganjing
Aug. 30th, 2005 09:14 pm (UTC)
You know sometimes when we get so angry, and when dh gets even more angry than me and starts to show the lil one, even I get taken aback and scared that I am not angry anymore. At the end I'll have to pacify dh. I can imagine that scene. Just hope it is just a phase that will soon pass
angeliatay
Aug. 31st, 2005 02:39 pm (UTC)
thankfully, hubby doesnt flare up that easily ..but i can visualise what you're saying here. Does Megan get scared when that happens?
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nining
Aug. 30th, 2005 10:33 pm (UTC)
Hmmm, come to think of it, Emily has ever thrown such a tantrum. Usually if I raised my voice, she would just sob herself crazy in a corner. I guess each kid's temperament is different and I am not sure how I would have handled such situation if it really happens. Parenthood is really an ongoing OTJ training.

Thanks for sharing the poem.
angeliatay
Aug. 31st, 2005 02:40 pm (UTC)
emily is a great kid & and you're blessed.
mamemo
Aug. 31st, 2005 12:48 am (UTC)
the poem really touches me ...
however, discipline and over discipline is an extremely thin line.

angeliatay
Aug. 31st, 2005 02:41 pm (UTC)
ikwym..it's sometime tough to determine..but again, who and how are we to judge especially when it isnt ur kid. For eg.. I don't condone caning yet i cant say it's a no-no...
(Anonymous)
Sep. 16th, 2005 10:56 pm (UTC)
mis, may hap s
it's his little way of telling mummy that it's all gonna be okay.........?
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