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Yesterday over the phone, the boy was happily telling me that he had a great meal during recess time. I'd asked him what he'd eaten and he said he had a bowl of porridge, a plate of wanton mee and an ice-lemon tea. And he added that he still had 50cents to put into his piggybank. I swear my son thinks that the school canteen food is buffet style! The problem now is that he discovered that instead of ordering the biggest portion for his meal (which should be sufficient for him), he now orders the small portions but have 2 different meals instead.

Anyway, I digress. Back to the main point of my post. After our tele-conversation, I kept having this niggling feeling that something just wasn't right. So I did a mental calculation..


Aidan's Expenditure
1 x Wanton Mee = $1,00
1 x Porridge = $0.80
1 x Ice Lemon Tea = $1.00
Total : $2.80
Pocket Money : $2.80


Hmmmmm..where did the boy get the extra $0.50 to put into his piggybank? So back at home, I decided to interrogate him about it. Initially, he kept saying that the porridge cost him only $0.30 till I showed him the picture of the stall menu which I'd taken (see, my phototaking session in his school does come in useful). He then admitted that he had borrowed 50 cents from his classmate so that he wouldn't return home empty-handed!!! Aidan said that I seemed so pleased that he was able to 'save' money that he didn't want me to think that he'd spent all his pocket money *Sigh*. I'd queried who was the classmate he'd borrowed the money from. He was like.."Errr..the boy who is sitting in front of me to the right!" When asked for the boy's name, Aidan's face went blank. I'm like..wakaos!!! He actually borrowed money from someone whose name he doesn't even know!!!! *Arghhhh!!*

So this morning, I told him that he had to return 50 cents to his classmate and that this money would be taken from today's pocket money. Told him sternly that he had to learn to spend within his means and that the money wasn't for him to spurge but to spend on necessities. I did warn him that I would cut his pocket money if I feel that he's spending the money frivolously.

*Sigh* I know he hasn't exactly grasped the concept of money and it is largely my fault as I've not really taught him much about it. Actually, I've never been good with money myself and only started saving when I was in my early 30s! Man..I really hope there won't be a repeat of this incident again. Would be really open to suggestions from the other parents out there..

EDIT : My sis just told me over msn that when she was in Primary One, she stole 10 bucks from my dad to open a POSB account so that she wouldn't disappoint her teacher. WIN!!!! 10 bucks in the 70s is quite a lot of money leh! But she later confessed to dad when he discovered his money missing..She has conveniently forgotten what happened after that but knowing my dad, she probably got walloped big time...

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According to the mommy of dear kristyseah who'd taken her cue from Metrodad, today is Official Delurking Day (actually, Metrodad said it was on a Monday but what the heck!). I've started this blog in Oct 2002..about 2 months before Aidan was due. I had just quit my job then and was waiting for the arrival of my baby and had nothing better to do so I started blogging. Through this blog, I got to know many other mommies and their kids (and Aidan then had many companions to play with) and also developed some great friendships along the way. Most of you had literally seen Aidan grow up and saw me through some good and bad times..I know there are some who just read and have never commented and it would be great if you could 'delurk' for a while and let me know what you like (and dislike too) about my blog :)


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debbstar
Jan. 13th, 2009 12:31 am (UTC)
i lurk because i like reading about mommy things (i'm future-proofing lah!)
angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 12:40 am (UTC)
haha i don't exactly consider u a lurker! u do comment once in a rare while *grin*..same as me on ur blog!

but heh, nothing u read from our blogs will ever prepare you from the actual experience! am sure u will enjoy it when it comes along :)
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geekgeek
Jan. 13th, 2009 12:33 am (UTC)
Well it's never too late to teach, and especially in today's times where parents are spoiling their kids like mad, it's especially important to get him started on the benefits of saving! (Otherwise end up like me...dunno how to save until I'm 30...)
angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 12:38 am (UTC)
unfortunately, i do have to admit that i do spoil aidan quite a bit..so yes, i'm really trying to teach him now the importance of savings and also to understand that money doesn't drop from trees.
musomuse
Jan. 13th, 2009 12:45 am (UTC)
Aidan isn't bad with money..I think he just doesn't want to disappoint Mummy when he borrowed money from a classmate. Get him to start saving up his angpow money this year?

Perhaps tell him with every 3 months he can open up his piggy bank and add to his savings account too..
angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 12:51 am (UTC)
Actually, I've been saving all his angpow money since he was born..and he already has his own POSB account. The money to be put into this particular piggybank is more as a treat because I don't want him to expect me to always be buying him toys just because he wants them. I kinda want him to 'earn' it for himself.
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xrhapsodizingx
Jan. 13th, 2009 01:08 am (UTC)
i lurk silently most of the times. haha
i love seeing photos of Aidan. so handsome! keke
angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 01:15 am (UTC)
heh i know most pple like/read my blog because of Aidan. When he grows up older and become less cute, no one will read my blog anymore *sob*
passingsights
Jan. 13th, 2009 01:11 am (UTC)
hmmmm... just a side question: why $2.80 as pocket money?? I mean how did you arrive at the figure $2.80?? i thought usually it's "whole" figures, like $2 or $3(where it is most probably a $2-note and a $1 coin)... but in Singapore currency, $2.80 seems to be like a rather unique sum of money(as in you have to go dig out loose change for his pocket money...)
angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 01:27 am (UTC)
$3 bucks seemed too much $2.50 would probably be just right but i thought of giving him slightly more so it became $2.80. Originally, I'd planned to give him $2 before I saw the pricing of the canteen food. And I have tons of coins at home :P
twerped
Jan. 13th, 2009 01:12 am (UTC)
heh i've been lurking for erm, quite some time. and i love your blog cos of the way you write, cos of aidan and how real everything is here heh :)
angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 06:41 am (UTC)
heh thanks! u got a LX3 too eh? Nice pics on ur blog!
mizdivine
Jan. 13th, 2009 01:29 am (UTC)
i lurk around because i love reading entries by mommies, and personally i do love kids! doesn't help that your Aidan's so handsome too. =D
i also admire your ability to keep a full-time position and also be a great and active mum!

Edited at 2009-01-13 04:30 am (UTC)
angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 06:44 am (UTC)
Honestly, nothing to admire abt..Most moms nowadays are wohm and are great with their kids..a lot of capable moms I know have more than one kid! I have a helper who I depend on quite a lot and also great support in the form of my inlaws and friends so I consider myself blessed :)
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angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 06:46 am (UTC)
my boy is gumchek lah!

Hmm..okay, slight problem. My dad-in-law still does my grocery shopping. He enjoys it esp since he is retired. I did tell him before that I didn't mind doing it but he insisted (it is his way of getting to see Aidan regularly i suspect :)) But I do bring him to cold storage and all to shop once in a while. Erm, how old were u then when ur mom taught you abt the concept of coins? Woah..ur mom is super on man..
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ourperfectjoy
Jan. 13th, 2009 02:35 am (UTC)
I like all the pictures you posted.. hoho.. especially those of good looking men and women. :-P~
angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 06:49 am (UTC)
hahah..again, i would never expect such a comment from you!!!
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angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 06:50 am (UTC)
hehe u know, when i started this blog, there were several ljers who weren't married yet and also professed a phobia abt kids (although they said they like them yet they are afraid of having them). And now, some of them are already mommies :)

Yeah..I read abt your wedding plans. Congrats. Take your time..don't need to rush to have a child. Just enjoy each other's company first!!
mrsbudak
Jan. 13th, 2009 02:52 am (UTC)
I must confess that I used to be really bad with money. My family was very poor so I always had a "deprived mindset". So I used to bully this girl into buying things for me. That was in primary school.

In secondary school I still hadn't learnt the value of money. So I would squander my pocket money on stupid things like NKOTB stuff and pester my mom to buy branded stuff like Nike shoes. It got so bad that I squandered away my entire bank account ($1,000 of angpow money saved over the years). I remember I had like $1++ left and I didn't dare tell my mom about it.

Fortunately I learnt my lesson there and then. Ever since I started working in vacation jobs I started saving up. Amazingly, despite my poor money habits, I didn't get into destructive habits like gambling or worse, selling my body for $$$...

So what am I saying... it's not the end of the world, although it does pay to start early. Aidan is fortunate that you were sharp enough to arrest the problem in the bud; I wish I had such close supervision over my money habits too. There are books you can borrow from the library on instilling good money habits in your children. Do check them out!
angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 11:20 am (UTC)
i came from an above average family but then my dad lost most of his money when the stock market crashed and money was much tighter. I think i only became more aware of 'money' during my sec school days when i realised what it could get u..pretty clothes and pple look at u differently too. I remember one time, during a xmas church service. My 'newest' clothing item was this teeshirt that was a premium given by one of the dad's client and I proudly wore it to church. I can still remember the look of disdain from some of the church members and i never felt more embarrassed before. Maybe that is why up till now, I've always been concerned about what i wear..and even on Aidan's clothings. I know it is superficial but it did affect me psychologically. Like you, I also started doing part time jobs to earn extra income..not to save but to buy items like clothes and makeup because my parents don't buy much for us. And yeah, thankfully, I never had to resort to doing anything like selling my body *grin*..Guess we have too much principles to do that lah.

I think it was only because of Aidan that I realised that I needed to really save..and also for myself and thankfully I did because after the breakup, at least I had some cash set aside for rainy days..not that my ex isnt contributing now..but that the extra cash would definitely come in useful..

thanks for your advise..will definitely check out on the books!!
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ashleyneo
Jan. 13th, 2009 03:16 am (UTC)
I like your pictures! :)
angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 11:21 am (UTC)
woman, u stopped blogging already ah?!
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(Anonymous)
Jan. 13th, 2009 05:01 am (UTC)
Hi, I'm Cecilia. Read yr blog regularly but never comment. I enjoy reading yr blog becos I can relate to yr postings. I'm a mother of 3 young boys and my eldest is in P1 this year too.
angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 11:23 am (UTC)
thanks for delurking :) wow..3 kids. Definitely not easy. Which school is your boy in? Do leave me ur blog url if you have one!!
tyeetyuen
Jan. 13th, 2009 05:23 am (UTC)
Just want to let you know you are not alone with the "mysterous" money thing. On the second day of school, there was an extra 20cents in my P1 boy's bag and on second day, he bought a pack of milo without spending a single cents. And yesterday, he spent 30cents less to buy the same pack of milo! The first two incidents were due to him using his "charm" to ask a girl classmate to "give" him the money and we still have no clue what happened in the third incident. Urghh...
angeliatay
Jan. 13th, 2009 11:24 am (UTC)
I never realised that u started a new blog. No wonder I'd stopped seeing those pictures of ur kids. haha..ur son is goodlooking lah! No wonder he managed to charm the girl into giving him money! How ah??!!
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moomeh
Jan. 13th, 2009 06:08 am (UTC)
buffet!!! LOL!

i don't think considered lurking liao bah. :P
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